MARRIAGE SERVICE FOR
REVEREND PIA ALULI
Greeting: Oli Aloha Chant
Onaona I ka hala, me ka lehua
E hale lehua, no ia na ka noe O kau no ia, e anoi ne
E halia nei, hoi o ka hiki mai
A hiki mai no olua, a hiki pu no me ke aloha,
Aloha E! Aloha E! Aloha E!
This Oli Aloha is a chant that offers a word of greeting.
It says in part, “This is the sight for which I have longed.
Now that you have come, love has come with you. Aloha and welcome!”
BEGINNING WORDS
(Bride) and (Groom), the two of you have come before us, to make a new beginning. You have come individually and you have come to make a commitment that from this day, you will walk together as husband and wife. You bring individual strengths, wisdom and personalities and you commit yourselves to a life journey together. May you close the doors of the past and may you joyfully open the doors to your future together. May you truly open your hearts to this opportunity to love one another, as you have never loved before. Our service is based on the relationship which you both share with each other. It is a covenant, a promise. We come today to affirm your aloha – love for one another.
LEI EXCHANGE ~ OPTIONAL
Here in Hawai’i we exchange flower leis, signifying our open hearts and love for one another. The beautiful lei, with all of it’s hand picked flowers, are twined carefully bonded together with love. A reflection of your love and aloha for each other. As you exchange these leis, you will now begin to weave your own lei of life. And now, with loving aloha, please present your leis to one another.
DECLARATION OF INTENTION *CHOOSE OPTION
*A ~ Revised Traditional: ____, will you have _____ to be your husband / wife to live together in holy marriage? Will you love him/her, comfort him/her, honor and keep him/her in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to him/her as long as you both shall live? (Respond “I Will”)
*B ~ Contemporary: _____, will you have _____ to be your husband / wife, and will you love him/her faithfully as long as you both shall live? (Respond “I Will”)
*C ~ Contemporary: _____, do you find within you a special love for _____ that convinces you that you want to spend the rest of you lives together? Do you find within you the courage to face the challenges that you may encounter along your journey together? Are you willing to love _____ into her/his unique fullness, and to take the risk and accept the vulnerability of love again and again? (Respond “I Do and I Will”)
*D ~ Contemporary: _____, do you here in the presence of God and these witnesses, declare your commitment to _____ and choose her/him as the one with whom you wish to spend the rest of your life? Do you give yourself to her/him and accept the gift of self, which she/he gives to you? Do you also pledge to endure all of the difficulties of life even as you look forward to sharing the joys to be experienced together? (Respond “I Do”)
EXCHANGING OF VOWS *CHOOSE OPTION
*A ~ Revised Traditional: In the Spirit of Love, I, _____, take you _____, to be my husband / wife. To have and to hold, from this day forward. For better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health. To love and to cherish, now and forever. This is my solemn vow.
B* ~ Contemporary: I, _____, take you, _____ to be my husband / wife. And in doing so commit my life to you. Encompassing all sorrows and joys, all hardships and triumphs, all the experiences of life; a commitment made in love, kept in faith, lived in hope and eternally made new.
*C ~ Contemporary: _____, I offer you my love, my strength, and my support. I offer you my loyalty, my faith and my hope in all the changing circumstances of life. As long as we both shall live.
*D ~ Contemporary: I, _____, promise you my love without any limits, to accept the things you believe in and to always try to understand you. To trust in your love for me and pray it will grow stronger every day. To plan with you and dream with you, to laugh with you in joy, to grieve with you in sorrow. To grow with you in love. To do my best to show you how much I love you with all my heart, for as long as we both shall live. Amen.
EXCHANGING OF RINGS *CHOOSE OPTION
*A ~ Revised Traditional: _____, I give you this ring, as a sign of my love, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you.
*B ~ Contemporary: _____, I give you this ring, as a sign of my love and faithfulness
*C ~ Contemporary: _____, I give you this ring, as a sign of my love, knowing that love is precious and fragile, yet strong. Let this be a reminder of all that I have pledged to you here today.
*On Friendship: I love you, not for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you, for the part of me that you bring out. I love you for putting your hand into my heaped up heart and passing over all the frivolous and weak things that you cannot help seeing here, and drawing out into the light the beautiful and radiant things that no one else has looked quite far enough to find. I love you for ignoring the possibilities of the fool in me, and for laying hold of the possibilities of good in me. I love you for closing your eyes to the discords in me, and adding to the music in me by worshipful listening. You have done it without a touch, without a sign. You have done it by being yourself.
PRONOUNCEMENT OF MARRIAGE
(Groom) and (Bride), you are now finally united together as husband and wife. Go forth on your journey together. May you keep the covenant you have made and may you be a comfort with each other, share each other’s joys, console each other in sorrows, and keep each other regardless of the challenges life may bring. May you trust each other, trust life and not be afraid may you be given the gift of memory of this moment, day, and place for the rest of your lives. It is now my pleasure and honor to pronounce you husband and wife.
THE KISS
INTRODUCTION OF NEWLY WEDDED COUPLE
Mr. & Mrs. (Groom) & (Bride) (Last Name)